In Buddhism, the state of internal balance is often referred to as “equanimity” or “upekkha” in Pali, one of the foundational languages of Buddhist texts. Equanimity is considered one of the four or divine abodes, along with loving-kindness (metta), compassion (karuna), and sympathetic joy (mudita).
Why are we talking about Equanimity and how is it related to Coaching? Equanimity is the quality of even-mindedness, calmness, and impartiality in the face of life’s ups and downs. How many times did you hear these words: just relax, it is ok, calm down – it is not a big deal, no need to stress. But no matter how well we know the importance of being calm & composed and the negative effect of stress, nevertheless we find ourselves spiraling down into the worries, fears, anxieties and negative thoughts.
Is it really so hard to maintain a balanced perspective and emotional stability regardless of external circumstances? In the Buddhist context, equanimity is cultivated through mindfulness meditation and the development of insight into the impermanent, ever-changing nature of existence. How can we even rely our mental peace on the external circumstances if they keep changing every minute?
Equanimity does not mean indifference or apathy. Instead, it represents a profound sense of inner peace and acceptance that arises from understanding the interconnectedness of all phenomena and recognizing the inherent uncertainty and flux of life. It allows us to remain steady and composed, free from excessive attachment to pleasant experiences or aversion to unpleasant ones. We either run to pleasure or run away from pain? But where will we end after these sprints to and away from?
I believe that nothing like inner peace is the first step to building self-confidence, practicing self-love and knowing who you truly are and your life purpose. If the fundament is instable and the inner peace is missing than how to build anything upon it?
